It’s a strange idea that we often choose to suffer, but just because it seems odd does not mean it isn’t true. Think about the quote by Thich Nhat Hanh. How often do you prolong your own suffering because of fear?
Sure I’m miserable at work, but the job market is just too risky.
I’d love to be a dancer, but I’d probably just become a starving artist.
I know he hurts me, but if I leave him I’ll be alone.
There are millions of scenarios in which we knowingly deprive ourselves of joy because we fear changing our circumstances. The key to allowing change and growth lies in our ability to let go of what no longer serves us. If a relationship has become toxic, let that person go. If your closet is cluttered with things that you don’t wear anymore, get rid of it!
If you don’t let go of things you end up carrying a lot of unnecessary weight around.
In one of my all time favorite movies Labyrinth, the protagonist eats a poisoned peach and drifts into a land of material illusion, which Jim Henson brilliantly depicts as a junk yard. When you cling to the people and things that give you comfort you are only weighing yourself down and sometimes obstructing your progress towards more important things.
Learn to let go.
In the Tarot we see the value of letting go in the Ten of Wands. Why is he struggling with all those sticks? The funny thing about this card is that while he struggles he fails to notice that he is carrying more than just sticks…they are wands, a symbol of magic and the ability to manifest our dreams. He labors under his own ignorance.
I am not suggesting that letting go is easy. In fact, I know exactly how hard it can be, but I don’t let that keep me from trying. If you are having a hard time letting go of your own suffering consider this message: